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Sure, by the time I turned twenty-one I had run into enough egotistical, handsy, frat boys to give the male typecast credence. But I allowed myself to overlook the numerous examples of well-bred men that surrounded me and instead focused on—what seemed like—the steady flow of stereotypical stragglers in my life.
The truth is, popular media understands my frustration in regards to men and is in the practice of feeding me exactly what they think I want to hear. A prime example of this kind of pandering is the claim that men are less likely to marry smart women.
Women are constantly being told that the reason men are not interested or loose interest is because they are too intimidatedand we often offer ourselves this same explanation. I mean what other reason could a man have for not being madly in love with a woman as fabulous as you?
That is a very good question, but unfortunately the answer is not always going to be your super scary smarts. The fact that finding a spouse can feel all too elusive and the process absolutely torturous, makes this research that much more palatable. But Dr. Christine B. Whelan has a different take. In an excerpt from her book Whelan explains that women should not believe every ghost story they hear:.
Smart women do get married. Men do make passes at girls who wear glasses. And though some men are looking for women to play fetch for them, there's certainly no shortage of men who would much prefer to volley with an equal. Well, what about that study with all the British dudes?
And this is national news? When these seniors were coming of age in the early s, women had to re their jobs upon marriage and top universities were still closed to female students. Not until these women reached their 50s would equal pay be implemented in the Civil Service. The may be valid, but the idea that the gender norms of Grandma's generation are newsworthy and applicable to the lives of young, smart women today is laughable. Even if the news is great in the long run, it's still hard, and we like to wallow a bit," Eileen, a thirty-four-year-old magazine journalist, tells Whelan.
Still, Whelan provides more recent research that should give us cause to celebrate our situation. Yet a article in the American Journal of Sociology, overlooked by the media, reports just the opposite: High-status and powerful women are rated as more attractive.
Based on a study of interpersonal relationships in 60 different communities nationwide, the author concludes that women in positions of power are sexier to men than are more subordinate women. While Whelan points out that narrow metrics in measuring intelligence is another hole in these old studies used to scare us, research also offers proof that things are looking good for high-income women. For black women, that same salary bump increases the likelihood of marriage by more than 8 percent. I know, we're smart cookies, but let's give the men in our lives a little more credit—there are plenty of guys out there who are looking for someone he can learn from and grow with, and they know a good thing when they see it.
We don't need a long queue of suitors to figure out how to be in a relationship. I have an idea that just might change our dire dating scene and improve life for married couples, too. Singlehood is not a fatal flaw or a curse from the gods, and it's time we stopped talking as if it was. If you really want to meet someone, you need to take these tips to heart. There's an inherent tension between traditional 'gentlemanly' behavior and modern life. Home Relationships.
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