Added: Katie Aguiar - Date: 01.09.2021 02:52 - Views: 21292 - Clicks: 8678
Why is it that Americans feel the need to almost apologize when they are looking for someone? This is so American.
Many Americans behave like if you do not have a boyfriend or girlfriend that looks like someone out of a J. Crew catalog, others will think there is something wrong with you. If you are not chewing the corpulent on the weekends with some group of friend at a clam bake watching the sun set, having dry wine and french cheese than you are not living. This is so lame Americana. Here is the truth. Few people have this life and if you were living it would you be happy? Being depressed and alone is par for the course.
I was lonely and depressed. If you date someone, but they are not your one and only, that A little lonely but not desperate messed up. You are distracting yourself from your real purpose of finding a mate. It does not allow you to feel the full pain of being single and lonely, therefore, push you to action. Yes being single, lonely and depressed is a good thing. Take it as a or a call to action in American speak. It makes us desperate enough to look outside ourselves for someone to rescue and save our lives in every sense of the word. And this is what love does. Have no illusions, love destroys your walls.
See what happens is many American girls are serial monogamous daters until their 30s for this reason. They are detached, prideful and distant. American girls like this are horrible to date if you ask me. Then when they are in their 30s they want to find this last hope guy. Good luck. Girls should be desperate and lonely in their 20s, We guys are. If you are single and not desperate and not looking that is totally messed up. We all need love. It is the greatest part of being human. And like the Poet Rilke says Love is the work for which all other work is but preparation.
Here is the full quote:. For one human being to love another human being: that is perhaps the most difficult task that has been given to us, the ultimate, the final problem and proof, the work for which all other work is merely preparation. Before I met my wife, I was painfully lonely. I was lost. To be alone feels likeno cold daggers stabbing you deep in your heart. You feel this most depressed at night or when then sun goes down, around holidays in the winter, basically most of the time. Do you not feel this way?
I admit this and I am proud of this. This is how you are supposed to feel when you do not have your other half. This is nature tell you to go out there and find your other half. There is nothing wrong with this. This is good. This is nature. This is the way it is suppose to be. Look love makes the world go around. This is so play chess withed up. If you do not need someone, you one messed up person.
Everyone needs love like plants need the sun. Do not feel the need to apologize that you are single or feel ashamed. It just means you have the courage of your convictions to wait. What if you do not meet your other half until So what.
I A little lonely but not desperate English one on one and I will tell you what I learned. Since I teach them English I get to talk with many girl one on one about things like relationships and love as it is often brought up in conversation.
They all tell me, all of them, they want to find their other half so they can be in love. They would take care of him and treat him like a king. They want to stay at home and have babies.
They like it is a man is interested in them and hope maybe he will ask her out to see if they are their other half. They tell me they are lonely and desperate and do anything to find their man. When they get married they want to please their man in the bedroom, not thinking about themselves. And you know what? These girls look like super models. I wish I could show you their hots. They are tall, thin and leggy. It is not some Gothic male fantasy, this is reality if you are not in the USA.
Contrast that with the American girl dating model of her telling you that she is a strong women and does not need a man. Geez Louise, you hook up and marry with some American girl with even slightly materialistic tendencies, then, all you will have in your life is to wait for is the sweet kiss of death to set you free.
America on the other hand as such a twisted dating dynamic. You cannot admit you want this or you are single and lonely because if you do you are kind of a old fashion loser. Let me tell you when two single people of the opposite friendship meet, even for coffee, it is a date. They are meeting to consider if they would be good mates and want to make babies together. American dating is so upside down. Read my lips.
If you are an American girl or and American guy. Be honest with yourself. What in your heart of hearts do you really want. Not what has been programmed in your about career or success or keeping up with the Jones. Do you not want to have babies? This is a strong, deep instinctual urge. Do you not want to mate? Then stop playing games with your dating life and be honest with yourself. What if you are single you are looking for love and you are lonely and you are desperate and hopefully mildly depressed?
If you are you have hope. If you can admit this to yourself, then maybe you will humble yourselfand take action to find the person who you are supposed to be with. If you can not find them in the USA, look in other countries. Even match. If you want to find an Irish guy, look on anotherfriend. If you want to find a Polish girl look on sympatia. Look through my site and all the recommendations I make for dating sites in different countries.
But the best of course is to travel. Important: do not leave this site without checking out my specific recommendations I have in my posts. At least look at the hots or leave a comment. It is OK to be lonely, desperate and depressed. It is not OK not to do something about it. The world is full of opportunities. I live in with family between two worlds, US and Europe where I create tools for language learning.
If you found my site you probability share my passion to be a life long learner. Please explore my site and comment. I am a straight man that is looking to have a love life again, and with so many low life loser women that are out there now it is much harder meeting a good one.
I wish we had the women that existed years ago, and they were very much more educated than the ones that are out there now. So they are recommending I take more trips to Thailand, find a women there and bring her back to the USA. Better solution is build your house on solid ground like the Bible teaches rather than sand so when the first storm comes from transplanting a girl she A little lonely but not desperate not fly. What we all want is practical advice—not biblical quotes-advice based in reality and science and year — thank you.
How can you not see the wisdom in that quote? I lived abroad much of my life and traveled the world. I believe in science all things rational, yet to turn your back on wisdom like that is foolish. Science is nothing more then a method of examining the physical world. It does not answer why is there a universe at all, why we are something and not nothing.A little lonely but not desperate
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